The Covenant of Marriage

Published on Jul 25th, 2011 by City North Baptist Church
The Covenant of Marriage

Our culture makes a lot of the concept of “falling in love”. According to movies, songs, books and celebrity gossip magazines the big quest in romantic relationships is always the search for a “soul mate”. We get the impression that we should be looking for the kind of person who will always excite, arouse and capture our emotions.  However, when the Bible speaks of marriage it rarely speaks in terms of the kind of “romantic love” that our popular media portrays… rather it speaks in terms of “covenant love”.

I found the following video of three Christian ministers, all in their 60’s, speaking about the difference between an emotional “feelings based” view of marital love and a “covenant based” view.  I would encourage you to have a watch and begin to realign your understanding of love in marriage.

To be sure a strong Christlike marriage will be filled with beauty and romance… but these feelings of love are not to be the foundation of our marriages.  Remember the words of Bonheffer that are quoted in this video, “It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, [it is] the marriage that sustains your love.” Oh that City North would be a place where we esteem the covenant of marriage and fuel one another to keep this God-given covenant as the driving and sustaining force in our marriages.  Let us draw on Christ who went to the cross for His bride, not because we excited Him emotionally, (we were His enemies after all), but because of His covenant keeping love for us!

Piper, Carson, and Keller on Sustaining the Covenant of Marital Love from The Gospel Coalition on Vimeo.